Mae Whitman has always resonated with audiences, showcasing her talents in roles that feel deeply relatable and human. From her early days as a young actress in Hope Floats to her well-loved characters like Amber Holt in Parenthood and Annie Marks in Good Girls, she has built a career rich in authenticity. Her latest venture, a delightful role in Hallmark’s Twelve Dates ‘Til Christmas, is another testament to her ability to resonate with viewers during the holiday season.
In this six-episode series, adapted from Jenni Bayliss’ popular novel, Whitman plays Kate, a textile designer guided by her friends into a festive dating challenge. As the narrative unfolds, it’s clear that the heart of the story is less about finding love and more about self-discovery and personal growth.
Whitman filmed the series amid a significant personal change: she welcomed her son, Miles, just months before shooting in Ireland. Surrounded by a supportive community, she navigated the complexities and vulnerabilities that new motherhood brings, resulting in a heartwarming series filled with cozy romance—and authentic love evident in each scene.
We connected with Whitman to discuss the emotional nuances of Kate’s journey, filming in a new country while adjusting to motherhood, and the chosen family that continues to influence her life and work.
Scary Mommy: This series beautifully encapsulates classic holiday rom-com vibes, yet it dives deeper into self-discovery. What felt different about portraying Kate’s journey?
Mae Whitman: What I loved is how it moves beyond the typical narrative of feeling lonely during the holidays, waiting for someone to come and rescue you. There’s certainly a place for that storyline, but I find it so much richer when Kate is already content in her life. She’s not necessarily unhappy; she’s at a pivotal moment where she has the opportunity to reassess and grow. It’s about making the choice to confront oneself and ask, “What am I holding on to that could be holding me back?”
That introspection is intimidating, as it involves unraveling aspects of yourself. Choosing safety over vulnerability is an easy path to follow. I admired Kate as a character; I found pride in the story, which focuses on her confronting childhood defense mechanisms and allowing herself to let go of what no longer serves her.
Yes, romance exists in the story. Yes, it’s festive. But it’s really about her personal growth, dealing with family dynamics, and becoming a more genuine version of herself. I appreciate storylines like that.
SM: What unique qualities do you think a holiday love story has compared to a traditional rom-com?
MW: That’s an interesting question. The coziness is a significant factor, enhanced by the spectacular landscapes of places like Ireland and England. The charming cottages, amazing gardens, and pleasure of indulging in local pastries add to the experience. I’ve come to appreciate the beauty of winter and the comfort that comes from such settings.
Even as someone who wasn’t particularly fond of Christmas, the snowy landscapes and cozy jackets captivated me. Combine any scenic countryside with a fireplace, and the ambiance is complete.
SM: The chemistry among your cast is palpable. Was there a moment that solidified this ensemble for you?
MW: I’ve known Mary McDonnell, who portrays my mother, since I was five when she played my mom in Independence Day. It was nostalgic to reunite after all those years in this new capacity. I admire her; she adds depth to the character of Delilah.
Jane Seymour, who plays Evelyn, is like royalty in Ireland—her connections and poise make her extraordinarily special.
Then there’s Julian Morris, who plays Callum. His positivity is infectious; he can brighten anyone’s worst day. Everyone on set genuinely wanted the best for one another. The crew was equally fantastic, combining efficiency with a fun atmosphere that encouraged silliness and light-heartedness.
The local culture in Ireland values family and human connection, creating an ideal working environment that enhances the overall experience.
SM: Transitioning to motherhood can be an overwhelming journey. Would you say your experiences on set contrasted with that reality?
MW: It’s a bizarre yet exhilarating phase.
SM: Your environment and the people around you seem to have positively shaped that experience.
MW: Returning to work as a new mom was challenging. I was navigating all the tender moments of motherhood—sometimes topless, often sleep-deprived, and always covered in baby spit-up. I felt a disconnect from being able to articulate myself. The vulnerability and fragility were real. I wondered how I would function at work when everything felt so daunting.
My partner was working in the States at the same time, so it was just me and Miles, just four months old, adapting to a new country for this job. The fear was palpable.
SM: That does sound daunting!
MW: Absolutely. Despite those fears, the kindness and support I received from the people of Ireland and my fellow cast members made all the difference. I emerged from that experience feeling whole, supported, and undeniably loved. It deepened my respect for mothers everywhere, especially regarding our emotional labor and all we juggle while navigating expectations.
After long filming days, I returned to my routine of preparing meals, bathing my son, and facilitating bedtime. I sometimes blinked in awe, thinking, I’m doing this. It’s hard, but I’m accomplishing something significant. Those moments reminded me to embrace my achievements.
SM: You’ve been in the industry for close to four decades. Reflecting on your journey from younger roles in Friends to today, did you envision this continuity?
MW: Not at all. Every job still surprises me. I ask myself, “Wait, really, they’re choosing me? This is astonishing!” Each job feels like a gift, bringing with it a joy that I cherish deeply. It’s amazing how grounded relationships can shift your perspective on work and life.
SM: Your bond with the cast of Parenthood remains strong. What characteristics do you hope your son, Miles, will absorb from them?
MW: It’s tough to even articulate how much those relationships mean to me. We are so close that sometimes it’s easy to forget we met on a TV show. It has become an intrinsic part of our lives.
My circle is small, but those I hold dear have an immense impact. Lauren Graham’s wisdom feels like having direct access to invaluable guidance. During the pandemic, she even delivered groceries, making me appreciate her kindness during absurd moments. She means the world to me.
Then there’s Miles. He plays a crucial role in my son’s life, effectively acting as a third parent. Miles brings joy and perspective to my life, and those qualities will enrich Miles’ experience growing up. He ensures I never feel entirely alone.
I am incredibly fortunate to have such amazing people nurturing my child’s development. He reflects kindness, curiosity, and sensitivity—traits I value greatly. To know he will have such nurturing influences is a long-standing wish fulfilled.
SM: Last question—can we hope for more episodes of Good Girls? What do we need to do to make that happen?
MW: If you discover the answer, let me know. I felt so fulfilled while working on that show, and the camaraderie among us was palpable. We often expressed disbelief about the opportunity to work together. My bond with the cast remains strong; we text daily and even had the chance to visit recently. The stories we could have continued to tell always leave me longing for more.
It means the world to hear that people enjoyed our work together, reinforcing my belief in the show’s value. The longing for more is both validating and bittersweet. If you come across a means to petition for more, I’d be all in.
